The Big Two Five

Hey Babes! So it finally happened! As of Saturday, I am twenty five years old! I officially reached adulthood.

As we entered the month of December I dreaded this day. I naturally began to think about my current position in life critically. I started to remember all of the accomplishments and milestones I thought I would have by now that I have yet to reach. The first thought that came to my mind is failure. We often have these thoughts of failures when big birthdays come around – 25 is definitely one of those big years. It’s such a big year that I can now rent a car. 

But I am here to tell you that it is not so bad after all! Here are a couple tips for those of you that are approaching big birthdays with doubts of not being successful enough! These tips are also helpful for those of you entering the New Years a little down about where you stand with your goals. So, if you want to know how I made to the other side smiling, keep reading! 

  1. Glass Half Full

As I said before, the first thing I thought about with my approaching birthday were the goals that I haven’t met yet. What about the many milestones that I have reached? The goals that I have met? The accomplishments I do have under my belt? 

Instead of beating ourselves up about what we haven’t done yet, we should revel and enjoy the accomplishments that we have reached so far. Sometimes we are so driven by “what’s next” that we forget to enjoy what’s getting done right now. For example, I am a first generation college graduate (the first in my family to receive a college degree). But one of my goals was to be enrolled in a graduate school program by the time I turned 25. That left no room for me to be appreciative for the great milestones I have reached thus far. Now don’t get me wrong; I am not implying that you get comfortable and not continue to push to reach all of your goals. I’m just reminding you to not beat yourself up for not reaching a self-imposed time limit while you are still working towards the future. After all, every big goal should be broken down into smaller goals. One cannot wake up and be enrolled in graduate school; there are steps that must be completed first. Earning an undergraduate degree is about 80% of the battle. So I know that I am on my way! If you are taking smaller steps to reach that great milestone, you are on your way as well. Don’t beat yourself up about the process; celebrate the process instead! 
2. Reevaluate and Plan

There may be some goals that have been pushed aside in years or some goals that we are not even close to reaching. For these goals, we must reevaluate and really examine if that is a goal that we really want to reach. To help your evaluation, remind yourself why the goal was made in the first place. As you all know, we change over the years and, if this goal doesn’t interest you or is not relevant to your life anymore, simply cross it off your list. Now if this goal is still relevant today, you have to question what’s stopping you from reaching that achievement. Instead of being depressed about not achieving your goals yet, figure out why you haven’t achieved them yet. Make a plan of how you will achieve. Determine what you were doing in that past that hasn’t worked for you and ask yourself why. Finally, create a new game plan! Remember: every big goal should be broken down into smaller goals. 
These two tips helped me accept and be comfortable with the fact that I am 25 years old! And more importantly: although I haven’t reached all of my goals yet, I am proud of how far I have come. 

Comment below if these tips have helped you or tell me some tips you use to get through times like this. And as always, thanks for stopping by. 



A Blog about a Blog 

Hey Babes! 

I just wanted to stop by and give you some updates of what’s been going on with me!

 For starters, I finally made my first YouTube video. I’ve been talking about creating a channel for over a year now and it’s finally here! Editing was a long and drawn out process, but the feedback I’ve been receiving makes it all worth it. Here’s the link to my channel, if you want to see it for yourself

Secondly, I was featured in a blog post! When the creator of Vain Culture, James Gadsden, reached out to me- it caught me by surprise. I realized that, while some may not comment or like every post about my blog or organization, it doesn’t mean that they are not taking note in my growth and supporting my work. I was completely honored. Although I didn’t start Chic Excellence and create Babes and Brunch for recognition- I am so proud that people are acknowledging all the hard work that I am putting into my passion. 

Gadsden did such a great job writing the post(no I am not just saying that because it’s about me). I was really impressed that he didn’t interview me; he did his own research and was very knowledgeable about my brands. If you would like to check out the blog, here’s the link. You can also check out other blog post that Gadsden has produced. 

As always thanks for stopping by and stay tuned for some new posts! And remember to keep working hard- you never know who’s watching! I’m proof!   


Food For Thought 1

We all have that moment in our childhood where we just cannot wait to be an adult and all grown up. We also all had that moment in our adulthood where we wished our childhood years would appear right before our eyes. When things were so simple and carefree- we say. I’ve finally had this exact moment. Being an adult takes some serious preparing and hard work. Now, I too regret rushing my childhood years so much! I want my 12 year old self back sometimes. The biggest problem I am facing as an adult is balancing my time. With a full time job and sleep, your time is very limited. You have to choose wisely what and who you want to spend that time on. I am now realizing how hard it is to have an successful long distance relationship- it is also a full time job plus over time. Recently I’ve been noticing how my friends and other hobbies are getting the short end of the stick due to my second full time job(and over time). Today, I am working on putting the time back into other relationships that are just as important to me and to my organization Babes and Brunch. In a relationship it is essential for you to have your own identity FIRST instead of looking for your partner to complete you or define who you are as an individual. We all say we want the perfect life with the dream job, marriage and family. What we often forget is our friendships- the ones that support you through it all. I will not forget that anymore- even if it becomes my third full time job.

What are some issues you are facing as an adult? Also, did you go through a similar situation, what was the outcome?

Comment below.